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Love is friendship on fire

Love is friendship on fire! I love this thought on what “love” is. When you look at successful long term relationships, this is so very true, love is indeed friendship on fire. When friendship is the foundation of a romantic relationship then you can build a lifetime on it.
Think about why so many relationships fail to last. Initially we are often physically attracted to each other. This physical attraction opens up a doorway and we get to know each other. Many times a relationship starts out with hot, passionate physical attraction, we hunger for each other. Our mutual passion seems to override everything else. We feel euphoric during our physical encounters and in between encountersin anticipation of our next physical encounter. In this state we often tend to see what we want to see, we practice self deception and often deception of the other person as we attempt to make everything fit. This is an effort to say, “hey, look, we are a great couple. We are wonderful together”. We catch ourselves thinking, justifying really, “okay we are not perfect together, but who is? or he/she has all the right stuff, with a little work I can make them the perfect mate for me”. In other words, we think, say and do things that indicate that we are setteling or we fool ourselves into thinking that this person will change over time or worse yet that we can change this person to be the person that we really want them to be.
A relationship is much different when the foundation is built on friendship. When a couple allows themselves to really get to know each other as friends first, they tend not to have the veil of passion blinding them to who the other person is and how you and this person interact and impact each others life. You are not distracted by the expectations of a love affair. You truly have the opportunity to know each other, to become friends first. As you become friends, as you learn about each other, your love for each other may grow. It may grow into a romantic love, if it does this is friendship on fire.
Friendship on fire will be the most fulfilling long term relationship you will ever have with another person. This can and often is the most romantic, comfortable love you will ever experience. You will find that your unconditional love for each other is so natural, so free, so beautiful. You will always see each other as best friends and you will find yourself telling each other everything before you share it with anyone else in your life. You will turn to each other when you need a friend. You intimacy will go beyond anything that you could ever imagine.
This is friendship on fire, this is love!Often times the love that we desire is in our midst, we must simply be open to the possibilities